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The Internet and Blowjob Blogging

2011-12-12T15:52:00.000-08:00

It's amazing how integrated our lives have become with the internet. It has become our source for every tid-bit of information, including personal gossip (although not all of it is online, but you can see it might head that way). Even things we used to go to a book for, we now hit up the internet - dictionaries and thesaurus's now sit untouched and gathering dust as we now visit dictionary.com or thesaurus.com to use these tools online.

And a whole lot more stuff that could be rambled on about for pages. But that has already been done.

What I want to talk about is how people use the internet for sex education. When I hear the word sex education I think STD's/STI's, condoms and uncomfortable classroom discussions about it being ok to say no. But sex education goes beyond that into the inform learning about what sex really is, what we can expect, what is normal, what is possible and all those other things we want to know about sex. It is in this less formal part of sex education that I have built my site centred around sharing information on how to give a blowjob.

I started the site intending it to be for mature adults in committed relationships, as this is where you can really express the love for your partner that I think takes good head to great head. Not to say you can't just be good at giving head but I think whoever you are, you will be better with someone you love. But I have a strong suspicion that most visitors to the site are younger in terms of relationship and sexual experience. And this is because the internet is now where we go for this kind of information.

About 10 years or so ago, when using the internet was a time consuming effort (remember that screeching old dial up?), we still used bound dictionaries and thought about things before we decided it required a google search. So what did we do when we wanted to know something about sex? Did we talk it out with our friends or ask our parents (I know I never did that!).

For me, it was teen magazines with sex tips and other information I enjoyed reading each month but which was still censored in that it didn't really tell you what you wanted to know. Obviously for them, drip feeding super specific tips sells better than telling you straight out that the best blowjobs are the ones where she seems like she is getting off on sucking his cock.

So, it's a big change. But hopefully this new access to information is having a positive effect. I strongly feel that knowledge is power and for the younger visitors to my site I hope knowing more about sex gives them the power to make better decisions. For the visitors I intended my site for, I hope knowing more about what makes a blowjob great for a guy gives you the power to give your guy better head.

Playing the passive role

2011-08-31T04:10:00.000-07:00

When giving head, normally I like to be the one in control. I love the power I have over him, I love being in control of the pleasure he is receiving and seeing his reactions to my ministrations. But they say variety is the spice of life and so sometimes I play the passive role. Rather than being the active part, my mouth becomes a receptacle for his cock to fuck as he takes his own pleasure.

We were in the lounge. He was standing-sitting against the back of the couch and I was kneeling between his outspread legs, up on my knees and actively sucking up and down the side of his cock and taking some time to wet his scrotum with my wet tongue, for some reason favouring the right one.

With a groan, his hands tightened in my hair and he took control of my movements. I sat back on my heels and he stood up fully. He looked down at me, I looked up and he started moving - pushing himself into my mouth. He held my head still as he thrust his cock into my mouth, fucking my acquiescence.

My arms were hanging limply at my side and as he held my head with his hands, he held my gaze with his eyes. His thrusting started to get deeper and he was watching me to see where my limit was. I felt inert, inactively enjoying this mouth-fucking. The only thing I was controlling was my tongue.

Through my gags, I ensured him silently with my eyes I was still ok and he didn't stop. I felt him swelling, his cock head growing in size and his shaft becoming even harder. He came and I swallowed his come, holding him in my mouth as he slowly softened.

Adding Rope - A Bound Blowjob

2011-08-05T05:19:00.000-07:00

While starting out my last post which was an opinion piece about guys putting their hands on your head when you are giving them a blowjob, I got the idea to take his hands away from him by tying him up. So I had to think about it but eventually figured I could tie him to one of our dining table chairs.

We did happen to have some rope but after touching it I realised, being the tough nylon/plastic-y type it wouldn't feel very good to be tied up with, so I jumped online and eventually settled on some nice cotton rope. While browsing the site I had a Homer Simpson "Doh" moment when I realised "Why don't I just use the scarves we have previously used for tying each other up." But for some reason (maybe all the rope bandage images I have seen lately through tumblr - I have a blowjob tumblr), I was stuck on rope. And I decided after having this moment that not only can I tie him up more securely with some good rope designed just for rope bondage, but I also want to try being bound in the more elaborate style (known as Shibari), so it's a win-win.

I ordered the rope, and luckily it arrived when by boy was out. I took it out - I love getting new sex toys, it's like the feeling I got as a kid opening Christmas presents - and it was wonderful. The rope was nice and soft and I wanted to skip what I had planned and ask him to tie me up, but I didn't stray.

I put the rope away in our bedroom closet.

My boy got home and came to give me a kiss. I told him he needed a shower, not because he actually smelled but it's always better to give head to a fresh clean cock. While he was in the shower I moved a chair from the dining area to our bedroom.

He finished and came into the bedroom. I was waiting on the bed and asked him to sit down. He sat.

At this point he had a funny little concerned expression on his face and asked me "What's up?"

I didn't reply, just stood up and walked around behind the chair. I had to push his face to keep him looking forward then I opened the closet and took out the rope I had hidden earlier. I pulled his hands behind his back and started tying his wrists. He started to question me, but I just shushed him.

It took a while to tie him, but there was enough rope that I decided to tie his legs too. Moving to the front I saw he was already hard, and was grinning at me in anticipation. I love that he gets hard so quickly.

I tied his ankles and took the towel off him. He was pointing straight up in the air. I took him into my mouth.

He moaned and I went deep and he moaned again. I usually work up to going so deep, but restraining him had excited me too. After the strong start I slowed down. I licked the shaft slowly, (and I hope) artfully. I looked up and he had the slack jawed "Oh my god" look on his face and he exhaled a deeply held breath.

I continued sucking him, going faster and harder, then slowing down. I was enjoying his legs fighting the rope, but next time I would tie his knees too. I sucked his balls and stroked his cock, my hand sliding over the head.

And he started coming.

Usually he warns me or I can just tell but this time it was a surprise. I took him into my mouth as his orgasm waned. Slowly he softened and the rest of the world seemed to come back into focus. I got some tissues and cleaned the mess.

"Next time I get to tie you up." he said with a grin, as if it was his idea...

Blowjobs and Guys Hands on Your Head

2011-07-25T01:52:00.000-07:00

Guys always seem to rest their hands on your head. And writing that line has just given me a sexy idea. I am going to tie my beau's hands to something before I next give him head. Hehehe... the power!!

Anyway, guys always seem to put their hands on your head when you are giving a blowjob. I can't remember if my first boy put his hands on my head when I was giving him my first blowjob, but I remember a few encounters later and halfway through giving him some nice soft wet head, I stopped and looked up at him and said something like "Are you trying to push my head?" - Turns out he was just playing with my ponytail (he was such a sweetie), so I went back to sucking his lovely cock.

And since then I'm sure it has happened pretty much every time. Guys' hands always go to your head. Sometimes it's more a matter of holding hair out of the way so they can get a better view - and I appreciate it too as it stops it getting in my mouth, sometimes it's to hold the hair in a more dominant manner - controlling my movements, and sometimes (and I think this is the more common reason) it's just to lovingly hold and touch the only part of their lovers body they can reach without contorting into an uncomfortable position.

As for me, I can't claim to be any different. If he is giving me head, I love running my fingers over his short hair (or through his longer hair, depending on the season) to show him I love what he is doing. I love holding him where I need him as he makes me come. I love pulling his ears to show him he is on the right track and to keep going. And I can understand why guys do the same (except the ears thing - that's just for girls).

I also think that it is important. Fellatio may be somewhat one sided but it is also making love and shouldn't be a one way street. There should be back and forth communication and is blowjobs or sex a big part of that is touching (which is what I was trying to say here about the two ways of the blowjob street). So when his hands are on my head, I love it. I can tell when I am doing something that feels good by the way he is touching me.

But there is etiquette. Pushing and pulling my head to the rhythm you want is unacceptable. If you don't know why you are an idiot. Pushing my head down is only OK in a few certain circumstances. I won't try describing them all but basically if you don't know that it is OK then don't do it! What is OK is a touch showing love and appreciation, lustful caressing, holding hair back, etc.

Writing that last paragraph has put me in a serious mood, so I will wrap it up here. Guys and them putting their hands on your head - are there any other reasons why they (you) do it? - Leave a comment!

Now I just have to find something to use to tie up my beau and somewhere to do it, if it works out I will share that story in my next post!

Enjoying a blowjob together

2011-05-04T21:29:00.000-07:00

I have made the comparison of blowjobs to giving a gift before, and now I want to extend it.

When you give someone a gift, you don't complain how much it cost or the effort you went to - a gift should be given without imposing any guilt upon the receiver. This should be the same with blowjobs.

You should give a gift out of love or appreciation and because you want to, not out of guilt or obligation and because they expect one. (Don't get me started on the institutions of enforced gift giving known as Valentine’s Day, birthdays, Christmas.) This should be the same with blowjobs.

When you receive a gift, you should receive it graciously, showing your appreciation for the thoughtfulness of the giver in thinking of you and taking the time and energy to get you the gift. This should be the same with blowjobs.

Giving a gift is selfless yet you should take pleasure in the recipient’s joy of receiving a gift. This should be the same with blowjobs.

So what this all comes down to is a kind of circle, where she must enjoy it so he can enjoy it, but her enjoyment comes from his and round we go.

The solution? - Communication! Guys getting a blowjob should be moaning and telling her how good it is, girls should be making a little noise too, encouraging him along. Not to mention non verbal communication. Touch, smile, eye contact, writhe around, shiver. Let yourself go so that you can both enjoy (each others enjoyment of) the blowjob together!

Giving him another girl - a blowjob fantasy

2011-04-30T00:01:00.000-07:00

So, my last post was about a book I was reading. Specifically it was about a scene in where a woman bought another woman for a man she was in love with, yet couldn't or wouldn't sleep with him, yet wanted to temporarily slake his lust. That scene inspired in me the following fantasy.

Coming in the doorway and kicking off his shoes, he could hear there was a visitor. Stepping into the lounge he saw his love and another woman. A friend, judging by the way they were sitting so relaxed together sipping white wine and having a quiet laugh together.

Hey honey, this is Alice.

He walked over and introduced himself.

Yes I know. I have heard a lot about you.

The smile she gave him was flirtatious and direct, her eyes hinting that she knew more than just his name and job title.

Are you girls going out tonight? You both look lovely.

Tonight? Tonight we have some other plans.

Alice got up and walked out to the kitchen. He watched Alice walk out of the room then turned back about to ask about their "other plans" and he was pulled down onto the couch next to her. Alice came back with another glass of wine and the rest of the bottle to top off both of the women’s drinks. Alice then sat down on the other side of him, so he was now quite snug between both women.

Cheers!

The women leaned across and they all clinked glasses and took a sip of the wine. Her hand then slid on to his thigh and she leaned close to his ear.

I have something for you.

As he turned to look at her to question her, Alice's hand slipped onto his other leg. Both women's hands now intimately placed on his inner thighs.

Alice. Is for you.

Her breath was warm in his ear and he wondered if he had heard right. She was leaning against his arm, and he could feel her wonderful breasts and suddenly her hand slipped higher, right onto his crotch. He was swollen.

What? But?..

Shhh...

Again the warmth in his ear and her hand directly on his crotch. Suddenly he realised Alice was now kneeling directly in front of him. The hand on his crotch pulled his zipper down then Alice's hands were on his belt, unbuckling.

It's just her mouth. But it's me here.

He heard it in his ear, felt her hand stroking his chest, not understanding what it meant but lost in the confusion. He lifted his hips and his pants were pulled down and off his legs. Her hand slid down his chest and gripped him.

She is going to suck your cock and I am just going to be here with you.

Her hand was around the base of his shaft, the top half exposed. Alice moved closer and he watched as she smiled up at him, pouted and blew softly, directly onto the head of his cock. He shivered and moaned.

Alice had mousy hair, curly in tight locks. Her green eyes were fun but dangerous and her lips were sensual and full.

The hand on his cock released its grip but his cock remained pointing straight to the ceiling. The hand took his chin and as he looked into her eyes he felt a warmth envelope his cock. He gasped in surprise, though he knew it was coming and his love kissed him. Her tongue flicked on his lips and slipped into his mouth. She felt no passion in him as she kissed him, then suddenly a throaty groan and she felt his lust.

His hands were on her and he kissed her deeply. She drew back and they both looked down at Alice, his cock in her mouth, her hands spreading his thighs. Alice looked up and smiled. He saw his love stoke Alice's face and run her hand through her hair.

Suck his big cock. Do you love it baby?

He told her it was amazing.

The women worked on him. Alice sucking his cock but his love just watching, stroking his chest, kissing him, and intermittently pushing his hands back down to his sides as he tried to reach for her body, or reach to guide Alice's head.

No touching. That's my rule.

So he didn't touch, but the women did. His love didn't touch his cock, but her whisperings in his ear were arousing his passion, her warm hand on his chest comforting him and this new woman he had never seen before, Alice, sucking so beautifully his cock. He was in turmoil.

Alice stopped sucking, though her hand leisurely stroked him as she reached for her glass and took a sip. He noticed his love sipping wine too, so he reached for his own and took a sip. A groan escaped him as Alice's hand squeezed him delectably.

What is this?

No. No questions.

Both women looked at each other and smiled in conspiracy. Alice passed her glass over and with her hand slipping down to his balls, her mouth once more enveloped him.

Oh, fuck! Hmmmnnggggg!!

Alice had stepped up her technique. What before had been a slow but delicious pleasure, was now threatening his composure.

Just come whenever you are ready.

He couldn't explain it, but somehow that phrase shocked him more than anything that had happened so far. The shock excited him, pushing him closer. Then with her hot breath and warm tongue teasing his ear and Alice's mouth on him, he exploded.

Arghhhhh!!!

With his legs, stomach muscles and fists clenching, his whole body shook with the orgasm. Slowly it subsided, final spasms shaking him. His love kissed his neck and handed him his glass of wine, then handed the other to Alice. They all three sipped the wine. Alice broke the tension.

Wow, eh!?

They laughed in agreement. She suggested he jump in the shower and he walked out of the room, still naked from the waist down. He heard the women’s voices and then the front door open and close. His love slipped into the shower with him. They looked at each other and deciding against talk for the moment kissed each other in the hot and cleansing spray.

Buy your boyfriend a blowjob. Would you?

2011-04-18T04:54:00.000-07:00

I'm reading a book at the moment that is set in Hong Kong. It's set quite a few years ago, and it is about men who rule companies competing for domination and destruction of other companies.

I have just read a scene where a young woman, of Hong Kong and English descent is seducing one of the men of power at the request of another man. She is trying to seduce him into marrying him, partly by withholding sex. She tells him she isn't just another good-time girl, but leads him on by playing on lust and love.

The book really is a great read, if just for the relationship between these two, however it is filled with such well developed characters and an amazingly deep plot that were it to be made into a movie so much would have to be cut from it and it would still be a titanic-length movie.

Anyway, they are in a club that provides entertainment in the form of women who will sit with you and ensure the conversation flows as quickly as the liqour. She explains as a local to him as a foreigner that here the women are not prostitutes, but in some cases you can buy the company of the ladies for the evening. She explains that this kind of thing is not like it is in America where is is frowned upon, something dirty and cheap. Rather "it is a pleasure to be sought like great food or great wine".

So, she is trying to seduce this man into falling in love with her, and after getting him worked up by teasing him, dancing seductively at this club, with their bodies pressed together enough that they can feel each others arousal she askes him which women he wants. She won't give him herself yet, but she wants to let him find release with another woman.

It's all very strange, but in the setting of this book with the power of the money these men wield, with the erotic unknown of the asian culture, it seems plausible and it seems sexy.

It certainly got me thinking. What would it be like to buy my man a blowjob or sex? Would I do it? Could I do it?

I think my next post will be how I imagine buying my boy a blowjob would be. I already spent half of today fantasising about it, I think the story will come easily.

Fun Exhibitionism - Blowjob at the Beach

2011-04-13T01:42:00.000-07:00

There are so many different kinds of blowjobs you can give based just on the kind of attitude you embrace while doing it. Recently, I found a bit of fun and playfulness welling up inside me, mixed it up with a bit of spontaneity and exhibitionism – shaken, not stirred, thank you very much and the result was... well, read on...

We were at the beach, usually we go with a few friends but this time we were there alone. We weren’t alone, but everyone was spread out along the beach and we had a good gap on either side of us, allowing us privacy of conversation. We had spotted two women further down the beach who were lying face down and had untied their tops to avoid at least the tan line on their backs.

I’ll bet you are hoping they roll over ay?

He just looked at me and winked with a bit of a grin. My stomach kind of flipped, but a good way, like when you decide to do something even though you feel a bit nervous about it. I started stroking his thigh, and slid my hand up under his board shorts but still on his thigh.

He looked back at me again and my hand slid further up, and found him lying against his leg. He grinned a little more.

I toyed with him, stroking lightly with my fingertip over that special spot under the head. The spot he says is ticklish but in an “Oh so good” way. I felt him grow.

Come here.

I pulled at the waist of his shorts and he rolled onto his side, facing me. I pulled at his shorts again, this time popping the button and ripping the Velcro fly open. I pulled him out and he felt my hand wrap around his shaft and start stroking his cock. He reached over me and pulled the cooler a little closer to cover what was going on. Then I slid down my towel and he felt the heat of my mouth on him.

He let out a whispered moan and adjusted the beach umbrella to give us more privacy. His cock felt big and warm in my mouth, it felt nice and a shiver went through me as the reality of what we were doing suddenly came back to me.

He is normally shows his enjoyment quite vocally but now he was moaning in a funny stage whisper. I took him out of my mouth and took a moment to lick him like a lollipop and look up into his eyes. His face was pleasure and shock I could tell he didn’t want me to stop but at the same time was freaking out doing this right on the beach, in the sunlight, in view of anyone who might walk past.

But it was fun. I kept going, challenging him to stop me, to forgo the risk at the cost of the pleasure. His balls were in my hand and his cock was being tongued as I slid up and down his hardness. I was winning.

But then the playfulness left me and I stopped. I moved back up the towel, now face to face and just gently holding his wet cock.

Sorry. That’s all baby.

He quickly stuffed himself back into his short and buttoned himself back up, his erection still enormous and looking painfully bent to the side. He kissed me.

That was a bit crazy. Cool, but crazy.

Reciprocal appreciation - cause guys can't ask

2011-04-01T05:45:00.000-07:00

I don't think guys are really allowed to admit that they are self conscious or body conscious or concerned with their image in the same way women are.

I mean, there was a term coined by women's magazines and other press - "metro sexual" for the men who are obsessed with how they look. I say obsessed because it is more than just a "Is my tie ok?", these are the very fashion conscious, skin care knowledgeable, maybe even wear a touch of make-up to hide a blemish guys. But I'm talking about the other guys.

Anyway, I think that even though guys don't admit it, they are body conscious. In the same way we are concerned with what makes us women and womanly - the size and shape of our breasts, buttocks, waist and hips, he is also concerned with what makes him a man - his cock and balls (and yeah, probably his chest too).

So I figure we should reciprocate in exactly the same way that we like him to like our breasts and our buttocks, and when we ask that clichéd question of "Does my butt look big in this?" or "Am I getting fat?" we expect him to answer with the correct "No honey" or "Yes honey", depending on if you are going for the big butt or small butt, and to assure us that "No, you're not getting fat baby... and anyway, I like a little cushion, for the pushin', ya know" with the little twinkle that further assures us we are still sexually attractive.

And how to reciprocate?

How about by giving him a damn fine blowjob! Or at least, when you are giving him head, be sure to convey by any means how big, beautiful, wonderful his cock and balls are, how much you love them, how good they make you feel.

Because while some men perhaps need a reminder to tell us how beautiful we are, we are allowed to remind them, to show our insecurities and they are generally pretty good once they figure it out. Men on the other hand aren't so free to admit they are worried about the size of their man-hood and that they would like a little reassurance from their lover.

So take it upon yourself? Make him feel like he has the biggest and most beautiful cock in the whole world? You could at least be certain he would walk into work the next day feeling like the boss.

The two ways of the blowjob street.

2011-03-26T23:40:00.000-07:00

There is a scene in the movie "Something about Mary" where the character Dom is watching TV and then his wife's pops up from the bottom of the screen as if she was just giving him head. I can imagine there might be a few guys out there who would think this kind of thing would be the bees knees, and also that there are a few women out there who wouldn't mind doing this, but to me, this kind of blowjob is missing the most important aspect of a blowjob - what giving and getting a blowjob really is all about - communication. My idea of what a blowjob is, is a two way street, where the giver is communicating in a physical way love, lust, affection, desire, etc and where the man receiving the blowjob is playing the part of the listener - appreciating and responding appropriately to the given "communication". In the same way that regular aural communication requires back and forth, and a good communicator is not just a good talker but also a good listener I believe that blowjobs require an active giver and receiver. If the guy is just watching TV while she slobs his knob, then how can either of them get the benefit of this act and fully appreciate and savor it? A blowjob, like all acts of love, is a wonderful thing. If you are taking part, either giving or receiving, you should definitely devote your attention to it. Play your part actively and enjoy it for all that it is worth.

Chocolate Mousse for Valantines Day

2011-02-16T03:14:00.000-08:00

Valentine’s day is a nice concept. Celebrate the love between you and your partner. As I touched on in my previous post, I'm not a fan of falling into the obligation to spend on consumption goods to prove my love. So this year, my boy and I made chocolate mousse together as our valentine’s day activity. It was fun and delicious. If you have never made chocolate mousse before, I recommend trying it. So simple. Here is the recipe we used - Yummy! Anyway, after we spent 10 to 15 minutes (no way you can do this in 4 mins!) making the mousse and putting it into champagne glasses to chill in the fridge, we still had half a bag (one of those cream squirting decoration bags) left, and I gave myself a shot. A soon as I had squirted the chocolate mousse into my mouth, he was kissing me trying to get a taste for himself. We shared my mouthful of chocolate mousse and as we parted, I reached my hand down to the crotch of his jeans. He was, as I was hoping, hard. Chocolate sex? That was all I had to say and we raced out the kitchen, round the corner and jumped onto our bed, decorating bag full of chocolate mousse in hand. Noticing that we were already pretty messy, the best thing for it was to get naked. He put a big towel down on the bed and we were set. The mousse was a bit warmer than is ideal (so not as delicious as is could of been) but we didn't let that stop us. We licked mousse of each other’s lips, then neck and collar bone, then breast/chest and nipples. I was enjoying the way his cock was standing so straight out in the air, looking so awkward but so sexual. We went lower, taking turns to lick mousse off each other’s belly, then getting quite messy as mousse ventured into the land of pubes. Then it was fun time. I put a couple of dollops on his balls, and a line running right up the shaft of his cock. I went for the dollops first. Sucking the mousse off his balls, and taking some time to spread it around first, I got a good dose of the moaning I so love to hear. He was rubbing my back, his hand sneaking down to my ass to touch my pussy, but I pushed him down. I followed the trail of mousse and eventually got to the tip of his cock. My tongue snuck under his foreskin before I took a grip of his shaft and pulled his skin back. There wasn't any chocolate mousse left, but by that point it didn't matter. Baby, are you trying to finish me? You are going to make me come if you keep going. I kept going. Even though it started out one for one, once I get started on giving him head, I love to see it through. His hands were stroking my head as mine were stroking his shaft, and he was moaning my name quite loud. Then he was coming.

Ramblings about Valentines Day

2011-02-16T02:52:00.000-08:00

I have a problem with birthday sex, or any other kind of holiday or special day sex. My problem with it is that (and it is taking a while for me to articulate exactly what my problem is) it can become like an obligation. Like giving gifts. Lets take blowjobs for example. Perhaps you don't give your man head very often. But on his birthday, you always give him head because it's his birthday. Ok, I will admit it is nice to spoil the one you love on their birthday, but only if you are enjoying it. If you aren't enjoying it, and you are only doing it out of obligation to his birthday, then that is bullshit. We are already suckered into buying expensive gifts out of obligations built up by successful advertising, why do something sexual when you don't want to as well? On the other hand, if you do enjoy it, get into it! Anyway, I'm not sure I have successfully explained my problem with birthday head (or obligatory gift buying... got a better idea of why this pisses me off? or why it pisses you off? - leave a comment!), but in addition to the above readon, sex shouldn't be used as a gift or method of payment. This valentines day however, I did spoil my boy with some sexy head, after we spoiled each other making some delicious homemade chocolate mousse. But sorry if you read this far, I won't post that story for a few days.

Surprises are Better

2011-01-28T03:44:00.000-08:00

I am a subscriber to the idea that surprises are great. I love surprises. Not suspension, just surprises. Telling someone you are going to give them a surprise, and making them wait all day for it is dangerous. It builds anticipation, they think about what it is all day, etc. Compare that to keeping it to yourself, and then at the end of the day just surprising them. The latter is far better in my opinion. I like to do this for my guy. Last weekend, we were having a few friends around for dinner and drinking, very grown up (I guess we are, really.. anyway). They were due round at 7.30, it was already 7.40 and we were still not finished with the food prep but no one had arrive yet. My boy was ripping the lettuce up and grating carrot and slicing cherry tomatoes in half, getting the salad ready. I looked over at him and thought, you are a sexy man. Time for a surprise. I caught his eye and got my seductive voice on. D'you want me to toss your salad? He burst out laughing. You want to eat my ass? I was a little embarrassed by my use of a phrase I didn't understand, but kept the seductive vibe going. I reached for his belt buckle as I knelt down in front of him. Well maybe not that, but what have you got here? I got his cock out and without pretence, took him into my mouth. I love how quickly he gets hard. As soon as he realises what's happening, his little man perks right up. He was already half hard by the time I got him in my mouth. I also love the first moan he makes when I first take him into my mouth. This time it was a good one. Ohhh-woah-yeaaahh-ohhh-babyy Hehe, I love it. He was already at full attention, and I was sliding my lips over his head, using my tongue to play with his foreskin, sliding it up and behind the head, where it generally stays until he softens up again. But he wasn't soft, and we were both enjoying this little surprise blowjob. His hands were resting on my head and he was starting to talk dirty a bit. Yeah suck it baby. Mmm. And I was sucking it. It felt good in my mouth. I went down deep, he moaned his appreciation and BZZZZZZZZZZZZ!! He swore and I stood up and smiled at him. They are here. He swore again. Fuck. Damn. You get the door? I went to get the door.

Listerene mouthwash + blowjob = super wetness

2011-01-15T04:40:00.000-08:00

Ok, so first things first: listerene mouthwash and penises (or pussies) do not go together. I haven't tried it but I know that having a strong mint in your mouth will cause his little feller's head (or your special place) to burn if you try to give head at the same time, so I figure having a strong minty mouthwash like listerene in your mouth while sucking on his cock is not a good idea. But it is a good idea to rinse your mouth right before you are feeling frisky! Why? - Try it. Rinse your mouth for about 30sec - 60sec with a very strong mouthwash. Spit it out then if you want to have a quick rinse with a little bit of water. Not too much water and not too much rinsing. You will still be able to taste the mouthwash which isn't the greatest taste in the world, but give it a bit and you will soon realise you have hit the saliva highway. And this is a cool kind of saliva. It is super thin and won't stop flowing. I'm sure if you just opened your mouth over his dick the saliva would start dripping out like a badly leaking tap. And not drool either. Very wet, very watery saliva. This is so much fun because if you do let it drool out of your mouth while you are sucking his cock... well his balls get wet, and so does the couch if that's where he is sitting at the time. That makes me smile at least. So, try it!!

My First Blowjob

2010-12-08T03:37:00.000-08:00

I really liked this guy. And he was a real sweetie. Kind of a nerd, not that popular but he and I were good friends and he used to walk me home after school, sometimes come in to hang out, even though he lived in the opposite direction. We were friend within a bigger group, and one night a few of us went out and we ended up at the beach. We were all walking along and then found a nice big front lawn right up against the beach so we all climbed up and the lovers seemed to find private areas for themselves, and the last four of us were cuddling on the grass. I was next to my nerdy-sweetie and was pushing my breasts into his arm. We started making out. His hands went under my sweater and he got what I imagine was his first touch of a breast. He seemed to be enjoying himself. Over the proceeding weekends, we found times to meet and make out more. Then one night after a party, everyone had gone their seperate ways home and I decided to text him. I asked him if he wanted to come over. He did. I snuck out of my house when he texted me and walked down the driveway. It was a long driveway, and the gravel was so noisy. At least it seemed that way. We met at the start of my drive and we both were a little nervous. We sat down on a step my the letterboxes and talked and snuggled closer, then started making out. Very quickly his hands went to my breasts, in a familiar way. In an unfamiliar way, I reached towards his crotch. I felt his cock from outside then reached in and felt him in the flesh. He was very hard and hot. I stopped making out with him, and undid his pants and pulled out his very erect penis. It felt big in my hand and looking down I could see it was. I didn't look at him, I just moved down slowly. I stuck my tongue out and put it on his cock. His foreskin was still covering the head. I swirled my tonue around the head, then took him in my mouth. It felt very strange, but I kept going becuase it felt good too. I could hear him breathing heavily, moaning a little bit. I continued to suck his cock, I really started to enjoy it and I could tell he was enjoying it too. I stopped sucking him for a minute and came back up face to face with him. He looked like a possum in the headlights. I won't forget that look. I guess it was in amazement that something could feel so good. He really was a cutie, my nerd boy with the big dick. He didn't come that time, but we did get a lot of practice time in once we realised what fun sex could be. And it was strange, because I felt like I always knew it, and I am glad I had that sweet nerd to explore the beginnings with.

My Blowjob Basics - The Foundations of a Blowjob

2010-11-17T04:56:00.000-08:00

Essential to any blowjob are these blowjob basics. No teeth; wetness; warmth; friction. Some extras are: eye contact; a clear view; dirty talk or other sounds of enjoyment. If you start a blowjob with teeth bared, you are unlikely to get positive feedback. Teeth should not contact the head of the penis. Sometimes the shaft is ok as the shaft is less sensitive so it can handle a bit more rough play, but the skin on the head is very sensitive. No teeth!! Wetness can be your saliva or you can use lube. The wetness helps to transfer the heat from your mouth or hand to his cock, and it assists your mouth or hand to slide over his cock with a smooth amazing sensation. A wet blowjob, or even a sloppy blowjob is the best kind. Warmth is good. It feels nice. Cold has a numbing effect so it makes sense to keep things down there nice and warm, where sensation is the main goal. Friction without wetness is just chaffing, so use some saliva or lube! Friction is created by applying pressure to movement. So licking, sucking while bobbing up and down his shaft, stroking will cause a delicious friction that the penis definitely enjoys. So that is the blowjob basics – the foundation of a great blowjob. To make your blowjob really amazing, then of course you also need a loving, willing, exciting and confident attitude. The extras at the top are part of your attitude – your actions and gestures that communicate how you feel giving your lover head.

Letting the Cum Spill

2010-11-11T02:35:00.000-08:00

This is bit of a dirty post. I haven't posted in a while and I haven't posted any personal stories in an even longer while, and last I just had a bit of inspiration... My beau has been texting me all day, and I have been encouraging him. This was my first text from this morning (annoying text language translated): "When you palmed my ass check in bed this morning, I wished you hadn't stopped ;)" My second to last text, in response to his "You better not have any panties on when I get home ;)" was: "I just took them off." He got home, came in and his smirk of a smile was exactly what I was hoping for. I was standing by the counter and he came around behind me. "I'm hungry" he said close to my ear while hugging me from behind. I got a feel for what kind of state he was in by leaning back into him. He pulled me tighter, my butt and his crotch making the most contact. "You're on dinner tonight" I said. "Not food hungry." He crouched down behind me and pulled me out a bit so I could bend at the waist, giving him better access to my pussy. My skirt went up and if I had any on - this is where my panties would have gone down. He started licking me and "ohhhhh" it was good. He was licking me hard. He was getting me everywhere - like a madman. My clit to my asshole, and spending a lot of time getting a good taste. It felt good to be so thoroughly eaten. Not good in a make me come way, but still really good. He got up and I turned around but he grabbed my hips and kept me facing the counter. "Don't move." After undoing his pants, he put his cock between my legs so when he thrust, the top of his cock was sliding against my pussy, ticking my clit. I put my legs together to trap him there, and he dry humped me for a few strokes, then pulled back enough to release his cock and as his erection pulled up, the head slipped into my pussy. Then he changed direction and slid into me. Slowly, until he was most of the way in. It filled me. Then he pulled out, spreading my come around so that his second stroke was able to go all the way in, filling me again. We fucked. It was good. Natural and animal. Then I wanted to suck him. By this point, I was naked, he was still standing in his pants, but shirt off. I dropped down and took him in my mouth. I went straight to get him off mode. I was sucking his head and using my hand at the same time. My tongue was working on his sweet spot (fraenulum area). Just pushing against it as my head moved up and down. His hands came down to my head, his fingers were in my hair. My other hand was on his balls, but I reached up and touched his belly. I stopped sucking, using my hand more vigorously while I reached up further and grabbed his nipple. I squeezed it hard. This was mostly for my pleasure. I like to see him grimace. Then I went back to sucking his cock. He started thrusting and moaning and telling me he was getting close. Then he came. The texting all day had worked. He was primed, so to speak. He came into my mouth and was making a lot of noise. (We always laugh about each other's noises afterward.) As his come shot into my mouth, I didn't swallow. I just kept pushing it out of my mouth, letting it drool out. Some dripped on my leg but most went on the floor. He looked down at me and said "You're such a porn star." He got some tissues for me to wipe my face, and then we went to take a shower. He's cooking dinner now.

2010-10-20T06:24:00.000-07:00

I am hung over. And I am writing this at work. There is something special, a little bit magical, about watching the letters appear on the screen as I hit the keys, trying to type out a special message to whoever might deign to read it. I am sitting here, trying not to be noticed. It’s just one of those days where I am not into doing the normal office thing (see top line). So in the spirit of being not noticed, let me talk about balls. I am making this jump because often balls are not noticed so much, or are often forgotten about during a blowjob. The balls, or to be specific, the scrotum is a fun area to play with and guys love it. I find that playing with his scrotum I feel like a kitten with a ball of twine. I don’t know why, that’s just how it is. I have to remind myself that they are not and I am not. And that were I to forget it, he would be in serious pain. I like that. It’s something you learn instinctively after giving a few blowjobs, that it feels good for the guy if you lick, suck, play with his balls, but at the same time they are sensitive. It wasn’t until I had it explained to me that it was the scrotum or the skin that feels good, and the testicles themselves don’t really get any pleasure. If “aggravated” they will cause pain, but no pleasure. It is the scrotum which gets the pleasure, and can in fact handle a fair amount of attention as long as the testicles aren’t aggravated. Balls. Funny things. Often forgotten, but can be a lot of fun to play with. For a quick blowjob, there isn’t much need to spend time with them, but for a real blowjob, while I stroke him with my hand, I love to get his balls and that whole area wet and sloppy. Then I just slide around like a sucker fish all over his balls, that special place under the balls, up his cock, between his balls and his leg, above his cock, everywhere. Balls should always be clean shaven. To warrant the attention I like to show his balls, there can’t be hair getting in the way. To all guys out there, if you want or currently get your balls looked after, for her comfort, keep yourself well groomed. Enough for today. Back to work.

part II - Change Your Mindset

2010-08-22T05:41:00.000-07:00

So this is the second part of an article originally entitled “Why do you like to give head?” If we assume that (and I realise here that this is starting to sound something like a college term paper, forgive me) it is the givers’ perspective, their mind set which determines whether they enjoys giving head and not anything else, then that leads us to accept that by changing one's mind set, the giver can go from disliking oral love to enjoying the act of spoiling her man with a good loving blowjob. Now, why would you want to change this? For one, it could be beneficial to the couple’s relationship, as good bedroom relations are such an important part of a happy overall relationship. If you are happy with other parts of your relationship but just doesn't like giving head, then you might be willing to think about trying this. For others who aren’t happy with their relationship and have little interest in pleasing their partner, then these couple obviously won't be reading this and I will leave that at that. So back to the main point, whether or not you like giving head is all a state of mind, and if you think it might help you (and perhaps elicit a stronger love and admiration from your lover), then how can you become a woman who would answer the first, rather than the second question? The answer is to change your mind set, and again I hear you ask "How?" “[l]How can I enjoy giving head?[/l]” Think about other things you enjoy doing. And I don’t mean things like eating chocolate, because that is more about why you like chocolate and not the doing of it, if you understand me. So for example, if you go to the gym and have been for a while, then chances are you started out not enjoying it very much but now it’s not so bad, perhaps you even enjoy it. At first, training was difficult, your body wasn’t used to it and it made you sore, sweaty and tired. You found reasons to avoid going and didn’t see how it was helping you. But after a while, going to the gym wasn’t so hard any more. You found a place in your daily routine for it, you started to see what it was doing for you and training became easier. You didn’t hate it anymore and you in a way started to enjoy pushing yourself for the gains that training brings. So can you do the same in the bedroom, with blowjobs? I think you can. For anything one enjoys you can find things about it you don’t enjoy. For it to be enjoyable, the good things must be more important to you than the bad things. Also, like going to the gym, you must persist. It will become easier and get better. Anyway, let me write more later on specific ways to make it easier for you to practice giving the man you love exquisite oral pleasure. It’s is easy to see that with practice you will get better which will make it easier for you and that in turn will help you to enjoy giving him a blowjob. So, to recap. • We started out with a question: “Why do(n’t) you like giving head?”. • We established that the answer comes down to personal preference (and other factors that have come to determine that preference). • We postulate that if we can change ones preference, an individual can go from disliking the act of performing fellatio on their partner to enjoying the sexual oral art. • We looked at other examples of activities people come to enjoy after starting out with a general dislike of. • We realised one must persist and break past the inconveniences till it becomes either an enjoyable activity or at least bearable. So they say “practice make perfect”, but it seems practice also makes something we don’t like easier and thus more enjoyable. Practice, practice, practice!

Why do you like giving head? - part I

2010-08-06T03:37:00.000-07:00

I put this question to you: "Why do you like giving head?" If you don't, then: "Why don't you like giving head?" I feel like the answer to these questions will mostly be descriptive narratives about what someone gets out of giving a blowjob, the enjoyment they get seeing the pleasure they are giving, the power they feel over controlling their partner's pleasure and other very fine things about what makes giving a blowjob great. And for those who answer the second question, I feel the answers will be along the lines of the act being unrewarding, it is a selfish act with only enjoyment for the giver, it is degrading, why do I want to put that in my mouth and other very relevant reasons for those answerers. And really, the above are answers to a slightly different question: "What do you like about giving head?" The real answer to "Why do you like giving head?" is actually along the lines of: it is simply a matter of who we are. Why do I like giving head? Well, perhaps it is the way I was brought up, the magazines I read swayed my perceptions, perhaps I am genetically pre-disposed, but either way, I like it. What I am getting at here is that if you put two different people in the same situation, they will have a different experience and feel differently about that same situation. One woman might be put in front of a guy who likes to sit back and watch her just give him head all day, let her do all the work and she will love it. Another woman might find him to be a lazy slob, repulsive to her, expecting her to do all the work which is not in any way rewarding to her. The only difference is in the mind set, the state of mind of the present giver. So what can we do with this idea? ...Let me continue this thought next week.

Bad Blowjob Tips - Blowjob with a Mint

2010-07-30T05:12:00.000-07:00

So recently I was looking around for some new blowjob ideas, new things I could try; to see if there was something I could learn to pass on to readers of my how to give a blowjob website guide. I stumbled accross something I had heard and read a few times before and thought "It's worth a try". This person had suggested trying a minty addition to your blowjob. Just pop a mint in your mouth and keep going with the blowjob as you were. The strange thing was　I instinctively knew that there was no way that technique was going to be reciprocated. Mint, or essence of mint does not mix with pussy, at least not mine. I knew it would be a burning and not a pleasant sensation to receive minty oral, but neither I nor he thought it would be bad for him. So as I was giving him head, I reached for the mints. "Ready to try something new honey? I heard having a mint in the mouth can feel a bit different." I think he tried to make a joke about fresh breath, then I popped one in and took his cock back into my mouth. (FYI: I was using one of those small breath-mints, sugar free and this one was of a particularly strong variety.) I was just bobbing up and down, swirling my toungue and the saliva in my mouth around his head and started complaining pretty quickly. "Ow, don't put it right on the head." From the start I had kept it on my tongue, so there was direct contact with the head. After choosing the strongest mints, I think this was my second mistake. "Ow, Ow, it's just burning me baby, ah, take it out!" So, that was that for the mint idea. I took the mint out and he wanted me to keep going. He complained that it was still burning, and eventually we quit because apparently he couldn't feel anything after the minty burn. So nothing came of that blowjob... If you have read this, and realise as I do that perhaps with a milder mint and no direct contact between mint and head of penis it might not be so bad, give it a go and let me know how it goes. We will be trying it again at some point(he's a trooper), though obviously with milder mints and a bit more caution next time. I will keep you posted.

My Hate on Helpful Blowjob Advice

2010-07-26T04:55:00.000-07:00

If you read a lot of girly magazine sex advice, or visit online forums for, you will inevitably get the helpful advice that you don’t need to do anything you don’t want to. Of course, I am thinking about this specifically in relation to blowjobs. A lot of women will wonder why their husband/boyfriend always asks for head, and when they ask for advice, there is always someone ready to tell them “If you don’t like it, don’t feel pressured to do it.” Now while of course I agree with that statement in general, there are exceptions. I feel that if you love your husband, if you are both healthy and well, then you should have no problem giving him head and if he has to ask for it, that is a terrible thing. (Well, asking isn’t too bad, but I get the feeling that in these cases the guy is asking out of desperation – that isn’t cool.) If you don’t like it, learn to like it. Take control so that the blowjob is something that gives you power rather than something that makes you feel derogated. Blowjobs and all parts of sex are a great tool to build a fun and healthy relationship. Use these tools. Just because you don’t love doing it, and some do-gooder says “Don’t do it if you don’t want to”, don’t use that as an excuse. Look after your man and he will love you for it. Look after your relationship and you will be happier for it. When you were in school, the subjects you didn’t like were the ones you weren’t good at. Try giving him head more often, get good at it, show him you love it and you might find you start to like it. When you get good at something like that, it’s hard not to enjoy it yourself. A note for anyone wondering about him and shouldn’t he also give her head, well fuck yes, of course! But please remember this is BlowjobHow-TheBlog, so forgive this rant, indeed this whole blog and site for being one sided and focusing on blowjobs, that’s what we do.

Waiting for him working late

2010-07-24T05:25:00.000-07:00

Here I am sitting at home, waiting for him to get home. I am wondering if I should give him head today. He has been a good boy, and today he has had a long day at work – today he had to stay late. So I am wondering would he like a blowjob when he gets home, or would he rather just a nice dinner waiting for him. Should I spend the next hour before he gets home dolling myself up, spending the time in the shower shaving myself smooth for him for if the blowjob turns to something more *wicked grin*. So should I spend some time doing my make-up so I look really sexy, with especially glossy lips that would look so perfect wrapped around the shaft of his hard cock, ready to relieve all the stress of the day? Which would he prefer to have satisfied first, his hunger (for no doubt his stomach will be growling) or his lust. Which is the best surprise for the male of today? In the end it kind of comes down to what I want, and today I want to spoil him with my mouth. There are leftovers in the fridge, so we can eat those after I have sated his lust and my desire for his throbbing shaft. I don’t know exactly why I want it, but it could be the power I wield when I have his cock between my lips, indeed, between my teeth. Or it could just be the expression of selfless love that giving head embodies. When someone does something like that and there is no reciprocation expected or demanded or taken, then you can’t help but feel a wonderful feeling of being loved. I want to show him that, I want to selflessly give him the gift of pleasure and love. So... shower time!!

The Best Blowjobs

2010-07-05T05:42:00.000-07:00

So today I was thinking to myself, the best blowjobs for him are the ones that aren't solely for the purpose of the result - that is, the best ones aren't the ones where she is in a rush to make him cum. Blowjobs, like all good things in life, should be undertaken purely for the enjoyment of the act itself. Admittedly, sometimes you do just need to hurry it up, but when you want to give a really good blowjob, when you want to make it a special treat for him. Don't start out with the end already in sight. Don't make it a race to the finish. Just because you are giving him head, doesn't make it a good blowjob - a good blowjob is a thing of luxury so don't rush it! Both of you should get comfortable, get very comfortable. Turn the lights down. Then take a moment for yourself to think about something that will get you going. Perhaps take the time to paint some warming lubricant on your nipples and blow on them while he is watching, then smile at him, to get the mood and the focus just right. Then settle down to enjoy a blowjob. If he is soft, enjoy that while it lasts, enjoy his soft cock in your mouth and enjoy the feeling of it coming to life. If it is hard, take a different approach and just ignore it and enjoy watching his scrotum react to your cool breath as you gently blow across his balls, then to your warm mouth. Take his cock into your mouth, and luxuriate in it. Enjoy how it feels to both of you. Stretch out like a cat in the sun and let him feed it to you. Do it however you do it for as long as you both are enjoying it, then when you need to, finish him off. Or if all this sucking and luxuriating in cock has been working you up (not to mention his hands and lips caressing your body throughout) lie belly down and let him gently fuck you to a mutual climax. (Hey, it's a perfect world right?) So that was todays thoughts. When it comes to oral, (for guys and girls) slow is better. Am I right ;)

Blowjob How - The Blog Welcome

2010-06-26T20:03:00.000-07:00

Welcome everyone to the first "BlowjobHow The Blog" post. Recently, we have been working on creating BlowjobHow.com - a how to give a blowbjob guide in website form, and realised we needed a blog. We want to keep that site as a simple blowjob guide, just keep things all about how to give the best head and not fill it up with crap. The reason I need a blog is I want to have an outlet for all the extra ideas, tips, and things I think about on a day to day basis(I think about giving head a lot, and what I can do to next thrill my boy) but may not be necessary to a simple guide to a great BJ. And I also thought I might want to share some of my personal experiences with anyone who might stumble upon this blog. So without further ado, I would like to share this story of a lucky guy (a.k.a. my boy) who was on the receiving end of some delicious oral loving. Also, I wrote this from his perspective, they way I like to think he sees it. Hope you enjoy. Sunday after breakfast Suddenly I can’t recall what I was just doing, but she is right infront of me, smiling at me and kissing me with a twinkle in her eyes. Happy mischief. We make out for a while then she takes my t-shirt off. Feeling my chest, touching my nipples and running her hands down my belly towards the love trail leading down into my jeans, she undoes the first button, pulls the zip down and takes my jeans off. Kissing me again, she asks me if I want to see her body. Hell yes! She takes off her top and removes her bra, and allows her breasts to come into view. The nipples are dark, and seem to tighten in the naked air. Brushing her nipples across my chest, she asks me again, “Do you want to see more?” Yes baby. She lets her jeans slide down her legs and I can see she is wearing a bright pink, sexy pair of panties, lacy along the bottom where they grip her bum and follow the cheeks as they curve in between her legs. They look so good on her, her tight soft butt turns me on. She knows it, and after kissing me and stroking my chest, she turns around and snuggles up against me, catching my hard cock between her cheeks. The first touch against my cock is electric, and I can’t help pulling her to me. No, no, honey, keep your hands on the table. I put my hands on the edge of the table, and she wiggles against me, sliding her butt up and down my erect length, knowing how crazy she is making me. She is giggling as I moan through the pleasure. Turning around once again, her tight nipples intentionally graze my chest, moving down my belly and down my thighs. She avoided my cock, having no mercy. But down seeing her down there, I knew it was going to get better. She pulled my briefs down, and smiled at my tortured state. You are quite hard, baby. She said, stating the obvious. Sweetie! I pleaded. She relented. The first stroke of her tongue was on the underside of my head. So good but I needed more. She took another broad tongued stroke from a little further down, then again from halfway down. Working me slowly, she would lick up the underside of my shaft with a wide tongue, each time from further down, each time right to the tip. Bliss. Taking my balls in hand and pulling them downwards softly, she took one last lick all the way from the base right to the head and then took me in her mouth. It was like magic. The warmth felt so good, and the wet tongue stroking me the whole time was heaven. Saliva started dribbling out her mouth. She worked up and down, always with a hand either on my balls or massaging the part of my shaft that continued behind my balls. I was getting close. I am close baby, keep going. With her hand taking over from her mouth, she stoked my slippery cock and asked me, Do you want to cum in my mouth? Yes. Suck it please baby. She went back on to my cock, stroking and sucking me, the pressure was too much. I let go of the table and held her head gently as I came inside her mouth. She smiled around my cock as my come filled her mouth..